GIVING UP, ALREADY!!!

Giving up, already?

 

Quitting is easy. When things are difficult, most people simply give up. They don’t have the vision to keep going when it gets tough. The unfortunate thing about giving up is that after you give up once, it becomes easier to give up a second time. This can lead to a third time and before you know it, you have made it a habit.

 

You can’t get away from failure and rejection if you want to make something of yourself. This is life, and it happens from time to time. This is where ‘working on your internal communication’ comes in.

 

 

Brush through your history books and you will be served with countless stories of both men and women who knew the importance of perseverance and of the warnings of those who gave up!

 

Did you know that Walt Disney was turned down 302 times before the bank lent him money to build Disneyland? Walt had a vision, and stayed committed to fulfilling it and he made what is today known to be ‘The Happiest Place on Earth’.

 

Colonel Sanders was in his sixties when he decided his social security check wasn’t enough to live on and went to market his great idea. What was it? A chicken recipe that he thought everyone would want. He went from restaurant to restaurant asking everyone if they would use his recipe, and they thought that he was crazy and so was his recipe. Finally, after hundreds of rejections, somebody gave him a nod, and the Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) was born.

 

When we think of Thomas Alva Edison, did you know that he failed over 9999 times in the process of inventing a light bulb? He said, “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent, perspiration!” In the beginning Dr. Seuss was rejected by twenty-eight publishers. The publishers considered his books “too outlandish to appeal to children”. In its first attempt to send a rocket to space, NASA failed 20 times. Would you have kept trying after hundreds of failures? Unfortunately, most people wouldn’t.

 

Sometimes, you won’t be able to see what lies ahead. Sometimes you’ll question yourself. Sometimes, you’ll look into the tunnel, and you won’t be able to tell whether you see the sunlight at the other end of the tunnel or a train is coming right toward you. Sometimes you get discouraged and confused when you can’t see the solution. This is all part of the process.

 

If you really want something, the entire universe will conspire for you towards achieving it. But it will take great persistence. Anything that is given consistent attention will grow.

 

 

Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions, I have been entrusted to take the game-winning shot…and missed. I have failed over and over again in my life and that’s why… I succeed.

 

Hence, my dear Success-Seeker! In a nutshell, the entire phobia about failure lies in your mind. If you think, you can, you will, but only if you’re ready to sustain your attempts, ‘unconditionally’, at what you really ‘want’.

 

“Arise! Awake! And stop not till the goal is reached!”

- Swami Vivekananda

THE COVETED SECRET OF GOOD LEADERSHIP

The Leadership Secret - Knowledge of Theory

 

The man at the top is usually someone who has been in the habit of going to the bottom of things. – Anonymous.

 

 

It’s been quite some time since I last shared a little secret of success at ‘Leadership’ with you, my dear friends! Hence, let me talk about the same with you today. It’s the sine-qua-non of being a good leader to go into the details of any given situation in order to comprehend the same to the T. An average person is not interested in going into the details of a situation. So he argues that he is interested only in practical knowledge. Any effort to educate such a person about “why” and “what” of a situation is ridiculed and labeled as boring theory.

 

It is true that theory alone is not enough. Practice is necessary. Knowing “how to….” is essential for the execution of a job. However, the practice will not be perfect without theoretical knowledge. Moreover, learning a skill is easier compared to decision-making. Visionary people know ‘why’ something must be done and they only decide ‘what’ needs to be done. Average people feel satisfied with learning a skill and think it to be enough.

 

Naresh Goyal of Jet Airways doesn’t probably know how to fly an aircraft but he owns the company.

 

Remember: In order to grow in your career, apart from learning technical skills, you must also have a vision, an analytical mind, decision-making abilities and a definite involvement in the affairs of the organization you belong to. You must be a thinker and you must learn the ‘whys’ and ‘what’s’ too.

 

The one who knows ‘how’

Shall always have a job,

But the one who knows ‘why’

Will be his BOSS.

 

THOUGHT     You say “I think” ten times a day Or fifteen times, or twenty And even more. Well, anyway You sure repeat it plenty. But pause and ponder half a wink And start your brain-cells clinking; “I think” you say, but do you think Or only thinking you’re thinking?   How often is the thing you’ve thought Out of yourself created And not a dictum you’ve been taught And simply imitated? Into a revive you sink And like an owl you’re blinking, But do you actually think, Or only Think you’re thinking?   “I think” you say – and ladle out Some fusty old opinion That probably was known about In Pharaoh’s dominion. Do new ideas ever slink Into your cranium’s chinking? I wonder – do you really think Or only think you’re thinking?   Traditions, customs, fill your head And some of them have virtue, But most of them have long been dead They fester there and hurt you. Son, chuck that clutter in the drink, Wake up – don’t sit there blinking! Wake up! And then perhaps you’ll think And not just think you’re thinking!     - Berton Braley (As quoted in the Forbes Book of Business Quotations)

PLEASE INFECT ME!

Please Infect Me!

Smiling is infectious; You catch it like the flu, When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too.   I passed around the corner and Someone saw my grin When he smiled I realized I’d Passed it on to him.   I thought about that smile and Then I realized its worth, A single smile, just like mine, could travel round the earth.   So if you feel a smile begin, Don’t try to contain it, Let’s start an epidemic, quick, And get the world infected! Twitter: MrGladPortBlair

STOP BLAMING - TAKE ACTION

Lost his job… Got defeated for legislature… Started business and failed… Wife died of a fatal disease… Experienced nervous breakdown…   Contested in election for speaker in legislature and lost… Tried for nomination in a political party and lost… Applied for the post of land officer and didn’t get it… Contested for senate and lost… Contested for Vice President and lost… Again contested for senate and lost… And two years later…..   got elected as the President of America   Abraham Lincoln

Failure… Does not mean you are a failure. It means you have not yet succeeded.   Failure does not mean you have accomplished nothing. It means you have learned something.   Failure does not mean you will never be able to do it. It means you have to do it in a different way.   Failure does not mean you are inferior. It means you are not perfect.     Failure does not mean you have wasted your life. It means you have to start afresh.   Failure does not mean you should give up. It means you should try harder.   Failure does not mean you will never achieve. It means it takes a little longer.   Failure does not mean God has abandoned you. It means God has a better idea! You will get the idea if you have faith in Him.

We Can Change/ Succeed

Albert Einstein – An ordinary patent clerk… became the world famous scientist.

Abraham Lincoln – A poor farmer’s son… became the President of America.

Goldameir – An average school teacher… became the Prime Minister of Israel.

Franklin. D Roosevelt – Sick and both legs paralyzed… became the President of America.

Homer – Blind… became the greatest Greek writer.

Helen Keller – Blind, deaf and dumb… became a renowned writer.

Demosthenes – A nervous stammerer… ended up becoming a renowned Greek orator.

Beethoven – Deaf… became the renowned music composer.

Thomas Edison – Matriculate… the greatest inventor. 

M S Oberoi - a simple clerk,              became one of the biggest chain hotel owners in the world. 

K K Patel - son of an ordinary farmer became the largest seller of washing powder in India (‘Nirma’ brand, Rs 1, 200 crores turnover). 

Topiwala – a matriculate with initial investment of Rs 100 now sells Rs 5 crores worth of ‘Shingar bindi’ per year. 

Malathi Holla - polio stricken (25 surgeries done), got 150 gold medals in disc throw, etc. 

Sharad Kumar Deekshit - 2 heart attacks; crippled in lower side of the body; vocal cords removed, performed 45,000 surgeries free of cost. 

C N Janaki - both legs polio stricken, prominent swimmer, mentioned in the book ‘Special People’ by the Oxford University.

Instead of blaming darkness, Light a candle if you can! Stop blaming; Instead take action   Generate enthusiasm Operate to your potential Destroy negative attitude

Change can start with ourselves and can begin only from within. J

WHOSE JOB IS IT - WATCH YOUR ATTITUDE

Story of 4 People

(Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, Nobody)

There was an important job to be done and Everybody was asked to do it.   Everybody was sure Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.   Somebody got angry about it, But it was Everybody’s job.   Everybody thought Nobody could do it, But Nobody realized that Everybody would not do it.   It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody When actually Nobody asked Anybody!

I suppose, I don’t need to talk more about it… do I? Nevertheless, if ‘Anybody’ has any questions, please do post your comments and I would be happy to answer… J

SALIENT FEATURES OF SUCCESS IN BUSINESS

Success in Business

The New Year is on and the conventional revelries that we have associated with it, must also, soon, be replaced with the most significant journey towards our Big Goal and that, invariably, for everyone of us, is nothing but ‘Success’. Hence, my dear friends, let’s get down to business, right away…

Perhaps the most sought-after goal in our present society is success in business. Whether you want to be promoted into high paying management positions, or wish to start your own independent enterprise either in traditional stream or in network marketing (MLM), knowledge of the business world is important.

As you plan a course of action towards accomplishing your goal, keep in mind the small goals that put you closer to the end, which is something that I’ve always advocated repeatedly, right since the day one, here at my blog. And be prepared to change often since change is symbolic of progress.

Create an aura of success around you. People who are successful dress that way. Even if you're not in a high-income bracket, act as though you have already achieved - without being egotistical or overspending. Develop an expertise in an area. Don't keep special information to yourself, but be quick to learn all there is about your position and the tasks surrounding getting that job done.

Capitalize on your strengths, and let others help you develop your weaknesses into assets. Get to know the people in the company or the network and the people in the industry. Read all the trade journals and magazines relating to your company or trade. Make appointments with people who are successful in your field and learn from them.

You need to have a ‘Total Commitment’ to succeed in business. Most people who make it to the executive boardroom put in long hours, often at the sacrifice of everything else. Regardless of the physical effort involved, you must mentally be engrossed in your business and the company/business enterprises.

In order to help yourself develop fully, you might seek a mentor, someone who will offer you time and teach you the ropes. This person usually is someone who believes in your ability, someone who you can develop a mutually beneficial business relationship with.

Some people become friendly with all their co-workers and find that is a way to advance. But don't try to be extroverted if it's not real to you. Most people who successfully run their own businesses are individuals who like to work alone.

As you increase your activities and accomplishments, you increase your potential to reach higher. The more you achieve, the more confidence you develop to achieve more. You don't have to be the same as everyone else and fit like a vegetable in a patch.

Be unique, different. Capitalize on your own self-image. Don't fall victim to self-consciousness. And trust your intuition. Hunches and inner feelings usually are the best route to travel, regardless of what seems to be the logical choice.

Make decisions quickly and with firmness. A true leader will handle these responsibilities efficiently and you do want to be the one; don’t you! That's what makes you different and why you'll rise to the top. Be persistent in attaining your goals, but be open and sincere.

If you are having personal difficulties with any co-workers or team-workers, try to know more about these people from a personal angle. Be interested in them and their accomplishments and goals. You might be able to turn opposition into friendship i.e. the negatives into the positives. Imagine what a scenario that would be!

Above all, use your integrity. If the goal is not worthy of your inner desires, it will be hard to attain. If your methods are not sincere, you will face opposition. If your actions are not honest, you will suffer the consequences.

And, finally, the bottom-line, in a nutshell - Turn all negative qualities into positive aspects - then watch yourself achieve the Big Goal that you are striving for.

To our success in the spanking New Year 2010,

Shrinath Vashishtha

Twitter Profile: MrGladPortBlair

HOW TO BUILD YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

How To Build Your Self Confidence

One of the most important steps to achieving your Goals in life is to develop a strong sense of self confidence. This does not however involve becoming loud or arrogant. On the contrary, people with genuine self confidence are usually calm and self assured and do not need to 'big note' themselves.

Here are my Top Ten Tips for building your self confidence:

1. Visualize Yourself as the Person You Want To Be

Each morning, spend a few minutes visualizing yourself as the person you want to be. Think about the way you dress, the way you carry yourself and the way you interact with other people. Seeing yourself as the person you want to become is the first step towards building self confidence.

2. Self Confidence Statement

After visualizing yourself as the person you want to be, read the following statement out loud:

"I know I have the ability to achieve my major goal in life. Therefore today,
I demand of myself persistent and continuous action towards achieving my goal"

Reading this statement out loud is a great way to start your day with a confident state of mind.

3. Dress Well

One of the most effective ways to instantly improve your level of self confidence is to dress well and to make the decision to always be well groomed. This does not mean you have to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe. Instead, just focus on gradually building up a small collection of good quality clothes. Also remember that simple accessories such as a tie clip or necklace can make a big difference to the way you look and feel.

4. Positive Posture

Another powerful way to build your sense of self confidence is to stand up straight and get rid of the slouch that many of us have acquired over the years. While you may be able to make a change to your posture by simply becoming aware of it, the best way to make a long lasting change to your posture is to practice Yoga.

5. Move with Purpose

A simple but effective tip for increasing your levels of self confidence is to always move with a sense of purpose. In his book 'The Magic of Thinking Big', David Schwartz recommends walking 25% faster than normal. Having a spring in your step lets people know that you have important things to do and actually makes you feel more confident as you go about your daily business.

6. Become a Participant

Have you ever noticed that in most meetings or groups, people immediately head towards the back of the room so that they can remain as inconspicuous as possible? A great way to increase your visibility and sense of self confidence is to make the decision to always sit towards the front of the room and be a participant. When you have something to say - don't be afraid to say it.

7. Connect With Confidence

Another way to quickly improve your self confidence is to practice making a strong first impression. When you meet someone face-to-face, look them directly in the eye (eye-to-eye contact), smile broadly (it’s contagious), shake hands firmly and say, "Hi Rahul, nice to meet you".

Similarly, you can sound more confident on the phone by answering, "Good morning, Anu Bharadwaj speaking" instead of simply saying "Hello…"

8. Build Your Success File

Occasionally, your self confidence will take a hit when something doesn't work out the way you hoped. One of the best ways to repair your self confidence in this situation is to keep a folder outlining your past achievements and successes (Or remember the “I AM” Board!?). You should also include any positive feedback or comments that you've received from others.

As you review your success file and fill your mind with positive comments, your doubts and insecurities will quickly disappear and your self confidence will be restored.

9. Be Prepared

The BIG secret to being self confident that people rarely talk about is - preparation. The more you prepare and practice for an event, the more self confident you will become.

If you are worried about an upcoming event, use your apprehension as a stimulus to take action and practice, practice, practice. The simple but powerful truth is that self confidence grows through repetition and experience.

10. Toastmasters

My final tip for developing self confidence is to join a Toastmasters group.

‘Toastmasters’ is a non-profit organization that helps people from all walks of life to develop their public speaking and leadership skills. In my experience Toastmasters offers a safe and relaxed environment to step out of your comfort zone and develop the invaluable skills of being able to think on your feet and speak in public.

So there you have it!

If you implement some or all of these 10 techniques, you'll gradually develop a greater sense of self confidence which in turn will help you to pursue and achieve your most important life goals, be it Multi Level Marketing (MLM) or any other field.

So, come on! Let’s boost it up, now!!! Cheers! J

Silence Your Major Critic - Self Improvement Tips

Silence Your Major Critic

Dear friends,

Imagine what would happen if you walked up to your best friend, looked them square in the eye and said, “You are stupid, fat and ugly!”

Chances are your friend would be deeply hurt by your words. In reality you would never do this because you value and care about your friend a lot. Nevertheless, this is often precisely what we do to ourselves on a daily basis.

We look into the mirror in the morning and think, “You look terrible!” Throughout the day, our internal self critic is continually yelling at us,

“You Idiot!
You have no self control!
You're Useless!
You can’t do anything right?”

Often the things we say to ourselves are far worse than anything we would ever say to anyone else! An important part of achieving success in life is developing a positive self-image and a strong sense of self-esteem.

A great way to do this is to create an “I AM” board. Here's how it works…

Find a quiet spot, sit down with a pen and paper and write down the things you see as your best qualities. This may be difficult at first because we are often not used to thinking positively about ourselves.

If you are stuck, think about the different roles you have in life e.g. Father, son, husband, mother, sister, friend etc. Also include your talents and the stuff you enjoy doing. Your finished “I AM” board should look something like this:

When you finish your “I AM” board, put it somewhere you will see it regularly, like next to your bathroom mirror or on the back of the bathroom door.

As you read your “I AM” statement each morning, you will find that your inner self-critic will begin to lose his or her voice. Your self-image will steadily improve and you will gain more of confidence to go after your dreams flat out.

Remember The Action Steps:

(1) Find a quiet spot and at the top of a blank sheet of paper write, “I AM”.

(2) Write down a list of your best attributes and character traits.

(3) Put your “I AM” board somewhere you will see it regularly and read it everyday.

(4) Be aware of your inner self-critic and every time you hear his or her voice, simply reject the negative thought outright and focus on who you actually are.

It’s so very motivating when Anthony says, “Dare to Dream!” in his book “The Oracle's Secret”. Kudos to him!

Cheers to your dreams & ambitions in life!!! J

SANTOSH NAIR - My Motivator - FREE INDIA CONCEPTS

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An idol to many, he has a track record of constantly moving ahead in life with lightening speed, no matter what the situation and has achieved paramount success in all his endeavors, throughout his career of more than 2 decades. Over the years, Santosh Nair has brought about revolutionary changes in the minds of many a lives, through his power packed, thought provoking and highly inspirational training programmes, thus helping them build life skills, develop strong attitudes, motivating individuals to constantly enhance their knowledge wealth and also guiding people develop strong habits by training them in a variety of areas that has helped ordinary individuals achieve the extra ordinary.

AND MY DEAR FRIENDS,I am a huge fan of Mr. Santosh Nair having had the fortune of being with him through the training that he imparted for FREE INDIA CONCEPTS at Mumbai in Junew, 2003.Hat's off to him...

How To Become A Leader in MLM

Hey, friends! One of the surest ways to achieve success in life is to become a leader in your chosen field of Network Marketing. Many people shy away from the thought of being a leader because they don't feel that they have the natural confidence or ability to lead others, but there is a secret to becoming a great leader…

The secret to becoming a great leader is to understand that most leaders started out by being 'Intelligent Followers'.

An intelligent follower is someone who:

1. Chooses the right leader to follow

2. Listens and learns from the person he/ she is following

3. Takes actions and applies the things he/ she learns

Once you start using this process you will discover that leadership is a skill like any other and that you can learn to be a great leader.

So today I'd like to encourage you to make the decision to become a leader in your chosen field of Multi Level Marketing (MLM).

Start by identifying someone in your area who has achieved the position you want to achieve and who conducts himself/ herself with integrity. Next, learn as much as you can by observing and listening to the person you have chosen to follow. If you don't have personal access to them, subscribe to their blogs and follow them on Twitter to gain an insight into the way they think.

Finally, the most important step of all is to apply the ideas and strategies that you learn in your field of MLM. One of my favorite quotes of all times is the one that Anthony says:

“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do." - Goethe

By being an intelligent follower, you will rapidly gain the skills and experience that you need to become a great leader in your own right.

For more details one can also refer to what Anthony says in his book – The Oracle’s Secret.